I'm no expert on nature vs nurture, my ADHD prevents me from getting past the first sentence and a half of any article. So it's more about me trying to understand myself and the difference between "how I am" and what has "made" me.
Nobody told me how to, or when to bang my head against the floor in frustration when things didn't go my way when I was three or four years old. I have no recollection of the time before that which may have helped shape my responses. But I'm ok with pinning that to the nature part of me.
Knowing what I know now about myself and looking back at that time, my emotional outbursts were dealt with by being yelled at and to "stop crying!" and "go to your room!" and "grow up." As a developing child, I was not taught how to deal with my emotions from a rational standpoint, only my emotions were dealt with by opposing larger emotions.
Now I don't blame my parents for their inability to help me, they came from a place that kids were seen and not heard, so they did not have the tools to help. Now that I'm well into adulthood, I still don't have the emotional maturity as my peers because I never saw myself as being less emotionally mature.
With the help of a therapist, I have been working on my emotional maturity and finding ways for me to fill in the nurture void that I have overlooked for many years.
Be well.
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